Thursday, September 07, 2006
This is in response to CK's blog entry about "Different Best Friends":
In my opinion, it only seems quite logical. I mean sure, you may have just one super closest best friend in the world, but he/she isn't going to be your only good friend. I mean, what if that person dies suddenly one day? You're going to be friendless for the rest of your life?
I also don't mean to say that friends (especially good friends) are homogenous goods and hence can be easily replaceable. (Please don't let that day come when human worth is reduced to this.)
Therefore, we have different best/close/good friends. Sadly, this is partly by circumstances. Usually the friendships we have are mostly proximity friendships. The kid whom you played with in kindergarten - the good friend whom you always shared your favourite toy with - do you still remember his name? Your group of best friends in primary school - have you left them behind along with your primary school days? Then there's primary school, JC, (NS for the guys), University and then poof, work and colleagues and a whole new batch of friends. What happens to all the "best friends" in the past places you have been, the ones whom you swore in your autograph books to "keep in touch forever"?
I'm not dissing anybody. My point is that it's inevitable that we have different best friends. Not only at different times, but at different places. Like how CK is one kind of best friend whom I have, but I can't always tell him everything. Not because I want to keep secrets from him, but it's quite difficult when I want to bitch about school and stuff like that. So I have friends like Alexis and Wilfred to bitch about school with, because they would understand, and happily join in the bitchfest. Haha...
And CK is not very fun to shop with, possibly because he doesn't like shopping. So when we go out, he's either following me around, or waiting outside the shop. And I'm quite kind - I don't shop for all the girly stuff or lingerie when we go out. Even in gender-neutral shops like CD shops, sports shops and bookstores, he doesn't participate. (He even "drowned" in Borders, because of the sheer number of books there.)
Even though CK is really patient and I love him dearly for it, it's still not fun to shop with him. So naturally I go out shopping with girls. Like Frances, Jo, Holly, Carine and some other girls.
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